I have the misfortune to be dealing with a male victim of domestic violence who has been sacked……for domestic violence. This situation would not be believed if it were a film or television drama but unfortunately for the dismissed officer, it is very real. The scenario is the result of a consistent failure by one particular force to take proper action during a domestic violence matter simply because the complainant was a cop. He reported the fact that he was a victim not once, not twice but more than 15 occasions over a 12 month period and still nothing was done for him. It is further compounded by the attempt of the senior management to make out a case that everything possible was done for him in an attempt to appease their own conscience. However, now they have sacked him the problem has gone away. The truth is that it was nothing more than a debacle which should be looked at to prevent it happening again.
The most recent episode in his life has involved him being attacked once again by his wife. He has defended himself on this occasion by taking her down to the floor and holding her there whilst she spat in his face and tore at his shirt and chest. The only mistake our former colleague made was to believe that his former victim record would count in his favour at any subsequent proceedings. They didn’t and he was convicted of a common assault. This officer was a good officer. No complaint history. No record of any violence. His family and friends rallied around to support him at the misconduct hearing including two former girlfriends, both now married, to outline how he never used violence in their relationship.
How do I know that he wasn’t the aggressor? I can only say that I have dealt with this man at length and nothing points toward that view. He is the one with the catalogue of injuries, sometimes photographed. He is the one who has colleagues describing bite marks to his back and shoulders in witness statements. He is the one with all the evidence and the one who, following medical consultation, is the one with the psychological scars showing him to be the victim. He is the one with the medical records showing stab wounds to his hands and arms. He is the one who has been badly let down.
If I told you all that 1 in every 6 males in this country will be a victim of domestic violence at some stage in their life. If you look at demographics then they can be broken down further into the fact that if the family earn less than the average wage then there are more female victims than male victims. If you earn around the national wage then the ratio is about equal. As cops we earn substantially more than the average wage and therefore fall into the category where there will be more male victims of domestic violence than female. Please, if you are a victim of domestic violence, whether male or female, then seek help. If you are a man then get in touch, confidentially, with mankind who are possibly the only support network in the country. Do not try and deal with it yourself, just walk away. You will not be believed, human nature, plain and simple.
Particularly if you work for the incompetent force that I work for!!